Seeking a great first date idea for taking out 28 yr old male he likes judo,kickboxing and independent movies?

Greetings!,


I am going out on a date with this new guy i am really fond of. It will be our first date hopefully not our last) I am 26, he%26#039;s 28 i want to do something unconventional, like take him to a muay Thai match or a sitar concert but we live nowhere near anything that cool (it%26#039;s Hartford Connecticut) Any ideas?|||I think you are making two mistakes....





1) You are investing too much into %26quot;creating%26quot; the perfect 1st date.





2) You are setting a tone for the relationship you may regret later.





Relationships (good ones anyway) are less about what you did on a first date and more about who you were with. As a guy, I can tell you what my wife and I did on our first date, our second date, and the first movie we ever went to. BUT.... I didn%26#039;t marry her because of what we did or saw on those dates. It was because of how well we bonded, learning about each other.





It%26#039;s nice of you to want to do something he likes. But keep in mind, you may be setting a tone for the relationship where his interests and desires trump your own. A dynamic you as a woman may come to resent if the relationship does grow.





Advice: Save this kind of planning for a later date for say his birthday. Just do something that will offer you both a chance to highlight who you are as ppl. But if you really are set on this idea.... Why not take him to a lesson in a martial art he hasn%26#039;t learned? A workout for both of you.





Capoeira maybe be a fun choice. (It%26#039;s more dancing than combat in practice, it doesn%26#039;t involve a lot of physical contact which may be a little awkward for a first date, and it is a fun bit of exercise that you both will show some personality in learning.)





If it%26#039;s meant to be, it will be.





Be well.|||After you realize that the relationship will not materialize into anything special, Because it sucks that you are planning / and paying for the date, with his desires ahead of yours.


I%26#039;d suggest just renting some UFC videos, and saving your money and stay home.





You know in my world the guy would be planning a nice date, with the girls intentions ahead of his, dinner etc...


But it sounds like you are desperate and the guy is worth your attention.





But as I said, rent UFC videos and stay home, and show him that you are into that MMA (mixed martial arts) style of fighting, and save your money|||If he is just a spectator,he will love some MMA action,infact there is a great UFC this Saturday.They usually play them in Hooters %26amp; sports bars 4 free.


However,if he is a competitor,he doesn%26#039;t want 2 spend every waking moment thinking about fighting.Women R our way 2 escape %26amp; get away from the chaos of fighting.|||not to rain on your parade but yeah hes right the guy should be planning a date for you.





but if your into that also you can go to a dojo together and try some martial arts together just a 1 day class|||After some drinks, ask him to teach you some basic BJJ moves. Maybe that can be very surprising.